Making healthy changes is hard.
Some people want to tell you it is just about will power. And if you are the type of person who has no problem following rules and meeting expectations they set for themselves – maybe it is. I’m not that type of person. I’m the type that can do anything that’s expected of me by someone else, but I often drop the ball when it comes to delivering on a promise to myself. What Gretchen Rubin calls an Obliger – click here to find out what you are!
If I had understood, and more importantly, embraced this about myself. I would have spent a lot less time attempting to motivate myself like a person with endless willpower – and would have used tactics for habit change that actually work for my personality. And I wouldn’t have been so nasty to myself for not responding to methods that don’t gel with who I am.
Knowing what motivates you is the very first thing you need to learn before making any lasting changes in your life. It took me 4 years to lose the weight I wanted, and 90% of that time was just learning what didn’t work for me. And if you are in the middle of that – big hugs! It is incredibly frustrating, but will make it all the more sweet when you reach that mountain top.
And what worked for me?? I need accountability. Not just one partner that I tell about my new goal – but a community of people checking in and following up. Because I can do anything for someone else, but making a change for myself – it just doesn’t happen.
It started with a friend and I reading The Diet Fix by Yoni Freedhoff – A book I started only because we were reading it together. Otherwise it would probably still be on my shelf.
I started following the book’s advice after telling my sister in law and husband about it and saying I was going to do it. Every day there was a new task and my SIL would ask me what that day was all about so I was compelled to go on. And suddenly I had been making better, healthier choices for 10 days. A record for me at the time!
I learned to use Essential Oils because my mom would pop in with suggestions on oils I could use to clean or fix whatever we were talking about at the time. Or asking me which ones I was going to use first. After a while, it just became something I did without thinking. A new healthy habit, like brushing your teeth.
Accountability is key for me to make healthy changes in my life of all kinds. And if you are feeling like it is for you too – feel free to add me to your group of friends who want to be kept up to date on how you and your new healthy habits are doing! Message me on any of my social media accounts, email, or comment below. I want to know what you are up to and I’ll hold you to it.
Love and Spices,
PS – if you feel like doing ALL the personality quizes check out the Authentic Happiness Project from Penn State.